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Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Two months old

My baby is 2 months old. Where has the time gone? I blinked and two months passed...just like that. Ryan has changed so much in these past 9 weeks.  He can stand up when I hold his hands for a short period of time. He can smile and even laughs on occasion. He loves belly time and focuses on his surroundings and is so aware.  He is such a good baby. I feel Steve and I were blessed with a practically perfect infant. We can read his cries for the most part, but he doesn't really cry a whole lot.

At his last Dr's appointment he weighted 11 lbs 14 oz and was 23" tall. Pretty close to average for his age...maybe on the smaller end of average...but as long as he's healthy I don't care!

We take Ryan everywhere. We have since he was born. No stopping us from doing things because we have a baby in tow. He is involved in all that we do and we wouldn't have it any other way. He even goes to the local brewery with us once a week. :)  He will be our future brew master for sure.

I'm looking forward to the upcoming months and for him to grow and be happy. 

Our baby is a fan of many sports teams.

Here he is rooting for the Yankees to make his daddy proud


Now he's rooting for the Padres to make his mommy and Poppy happy!




And finally he's also an Angels fan to honor his grandma and grandpa Hays. :)

Monday, June 9, 2014

Lesley's plan for weightloss

As soon as I stopped nursing, the weight stopped dropping...and since I didn't alter my intake (you can eat slightly more when nursing and still lose weight) it actually starting coming back on. I don't weigh myself (scale is broken/off anyway) unless I go to a doctor and they do it. I just go off of how my clothes fit and I can't afford a whole new wardrobe to fit my new size. :)

Soooooo......I'm doing the slim-fast thing (technically the Kirkland brand weight loss shake thing...but who's really gonna know?) during the week and I get freebies on the weekends. Yep...it's proven to be successful for me in the past. I don't mind the taste of the drinks at all. In fact, I have to limit how much my son drinks or else I will go broke buying them. He loves them. I actually don't mind him drinking them because he doesn't eat much anyway and they are a meal replacement so I know he's getting nutrients that way.

 
I wonder if these drinks turn me into her?? 



I highly doubt this bikini clad model drinks these to get to where she is now..And I'm not realistically going for that look anyway. I like food way too much.

Friday, June 6, 2014

Overly Insecure? Untrusting? Or something else...

Maybe this is something some people think should be left for a private conversation, others, maybe not. I am who I am and I vent how I vent and share my views, concerns and joys the way that I do. I've never kept it a secret and as I've been told "be okay with it"

Bachelor parties...Bachelorette Parties. I have stated my views before. I am not okay with what seems to be the "norm" behind them. Drunkenness and strippers.  You are out celebrating with 20 of your 'closest friends' viewing naked dancers inches from your face (touching? maybe that'll cost you more - I don't even want to go there). The point of this celebratory ritual?  A rite of passage for the spouse to be. A final night to get all their ya-ya's out before they're tied down to the ol' ball and chain.

My view on this.

If you have ya-ya's - get them out before you get into a relationship. Respect your girl or guy and have a night out at Dave N Busters or Go-Kart racing...or something else that doesn't involve naked people who aren't your spouse to be.

It's about LOVE and RESPECT. I don't expect everyone to share my views...but the thought of my guy planning and/or attending one of the debacles makes me sick to my stomach. Do I trust my guy? Sure. Do I think he's planning on cheating on me? Nope. Do I like the thought of him getting turned on by some naked lady doing only God-knows-what in front of him, on his lap or whatever else they do? NOT-ONE-LITTLE-BIT

It is not okay. Purposely attending an event knowing you're going to be lusting after someone partially or fully unclothed is not okay. Making a night out of this is not okay with me. I don't see how it is okay with anyone, really. A night out, sure. A fun wholesome night out with friends is always a good time.

You are free to call me insecure. I am. I believe most people are to some degree.
You are free to call me un-trusing. I am that as well. I don't trust what 's going on inside someone's head who feels the need to view naked people dancing inches from their face. It's anything but innocent. I think my body is the only one he should be lusting for.  I won't ever apologize for that.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Interview with a 1 month old

Honest answers from an honest guy. What more could we ask for as we take a journey through the mind of a 1 month old baby boy...a very intelligent 1 month old I may add.

Meet Ryan. He bravely escaped the womb at an impressive speed on April 10th, 2014 at precisely 5 o'clock a.m..  He joined 2 sisters and a brother who were eagerly awaiting his arrival. His mother, father and 2 sets of grandparents were also enthusiastic about his appearance.

Me: So, Ryan, how was the journey to the outside world?

Ryan: "It was traumatic to say the least. I was practicing my Kung Fu and I punched a little too hard because I broke my womb room with my fist.  I heard some yelling and I got jostled around and a few hours later I was pushed through a tiny hole. OMG that hurt...lemme tell you. Not only did I have to endure almost skull crushing pain - they chopped off some of my skin just a few hours after that. And it wasn't in the most pleasant of places. Do I NEED to be any more blunt when I say keep sharp objects away from the pee-pee."

Me: "wow that sounds terrible"

Ryan: "yah, but I'm a rockstar and have a high pain tolerance which will work well for me later when I get my bod covered in tattoos like my pops."

Me: "So tell me what a typical day is for you"

Ryan: "I pretty much sleep a lot. I'm growing fast and that takes a LOT of energy- so I gotta get my rest. I also eat a lot but I've gotten into the bad habit of spitting up my food.  I got to keep my figure. I hear it's an unhealthy habit, but I'm a baby and have some learning to do.   I also pee and poop a lot. I love to see the reaction on the mom when I blow out a diaper. I save it all for one load. It takes a lot of work to make the diapers I do.

I also take care of my mom. I make sure she gets plenty of exercise and lack of sleep. I don't want her to get lazy in life and I'm only this tiny for a short time and I want her to appreciate me as much as she can.

Me:  "tell me more about your parents"

Ryan:  "I'll start with my old man. He's pretty cool. You can tell he's an amateur but I dig it.  He has passion and that's what matters. He loves me and calls me monkey boy. I like monkeys, so I don't mind it.   We like to chill together watching Nascar and baseball. You know, cool man bonding stuff.

My mom is pretty special. She stays home with me so I don't get lonely. I also don't know how to change my diapers or feed myself so she takes care of that too. I love it when she sings to me. I mean she's no Mariah Carey but she can bolt out some "twinkle twinkle little star" and "you are my sunshine" like nobody's business. She takes my picture a lot so I guess that makes me a model."

Me:  What have you accopmlished in your first month of life

Ryan: "Well, I've technically been around for approx 11 months but nobody seems to like to talk about that. But I suppose we'll just talk about the outside month. I've done a lot. I've met some pretty awesome people. They all love to hold me and talk to me. I like that. I've gone on some cool outings - like to the store and Safari Park and outside the house. I've also gone to some scary places where they use sharp objects on me. They call it the doctors and I do NOT like it there. They used scissors on my tongue.  The Doctor lady said I was tongue tied and she wanted to snip it if the folks were okay with it. I tried to tell them that I was NOT okay with it but they didn't' understand and they said "okay" and MAN DID IT HURT! She lied and said it wouldn't..but it did. I also bled all over the place for what seemed like an eternity.   Doctor lady said it's still short and I can go in for surgery if needed..thankfully mom got the message and said to leave it be."

Me: "What do you plan on doing the next month of your life"

Ryan: "I hope to develop more skills to get me further in life. I want to smile and laugh.  The folks do it all the time and it looks pretty fun. I want to strengthen my neck too. It's way too floppy and I feel a bit silly when the mom tries to sit me up. So I guess I'll hit the gym.  

I also want to travel more. I'm sick of the same old view day in and day out. I need to see the world. Maybe the zoo, or the park. One day I hope to stretch out my sea legs as well. 

Me: "Sounds like you're loving life on the outside"

Ryan: "Yep, it's pretty amazing. I sometimes miss the solitude of the inside, but I wouldn't
change my life for all the solitude int he world. 
 
Me an my mom


Me and my pops

Showing off my modeling skills

I have many poses and faces I can do.

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

2 weeks old...

My sweet baby boy is now almost 3 weeks old. He's such a sweetie pie too. He reminds me a lot of his big brother, Tyler. So mellow and easy going.  The past two days he hasn't even had any crying outbursts...like at all.

He's sleeping on me or next to me at night time. I will eventually break that habit..but for now it's easiest for us. I am getting sleep that way and that's a very good thing.  We're nursing and bottle feeding him and it's working out great. He doesn't care where his food comes from - it goes well with his mellow nature.

His sisters and brother love him so much and it feels like he just adapted to the family like he was meant to be. He was...meant to be. :) This kid defied lots of odds to get here..so we know he has a place here. He's going to do great things.

I'm doing really good. I've already lost 25 lbs and I feel great and full of energy. Other than bouts of depression and/or anxiety, the only thing I have wrong with me is my hands are numb. Dr says it's carpel tunnel and it's in both of my hands. I can't use the computer barley at all and anything I do on it takes 10x's the amount of time or I just give up because I can't feel my fingers.   I hope it goes away, I am not sure what will happen if it doesn't. It's crazy annoying. I have two wrist braces but I can't nurse or change baby or do a lot of things with baby while I have them on. It limits my abilities. Grr...

Today I did a mini photo shoot of my little man. He was alert and cooperative during the entire thing!






Other than that, we are doing wonderfully here. Steve and I are on a great track, kids only have like 5 more weeks of school and the weather is nice! 

We also got his hospital photos in. :)




Tuesday, April 22, 2014

New bundle of joy

It's only been 12 days since Ryan has been born and I can't imagine life with out him. He's perfect. His personality is mellow - which fits this household perfectly. He only cries when hungry or gassy and is content with pretty much everyone. He loves to be held and talked to.

Like his daddy: Ryan is a little talker, especially in his sleep. Just like daddy they jibber about randomness in their dreams. Mommy thinks it's hilarious.

Like his mommy: Mommy gave poor Ryan her tongue tied tongue. It was snipped at his 2nd Dr's appointment. Since then he's upped his eating considerably and gained close to his birth weight back in just a few days.

Like his brother: Ryan was born with a birthmark or a stork bite on his forehead. Just like his brother Tyler it's already showing signs of fading away.

Like his sisters: Ryan is way cool...just like his sisters are.

Sissy Allison giving brother some love
Sissy Sarah while at work at the Safari Park

  Sometimes I just sit and stare at my sweet little man and thank my stars that he's here.  It's amazing how much you can love a tiny human and do anything for them when just days before you had no idea what they even looked like. I also find it incredible how my love can grow for Steve by watching him take on fatherhood so proudly.  I truly feel blessed.

Enjoying my little man

First trip to the Safari Park

Giving kisses


Monday, April 14, 2014

Ryan's Birth Story

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014 started out like any other day for this very pregnant woman. Lots of peeing, lots of waddling and lots of crushed ice.  I felt like a loser mom getting out of bed late to take my kids to school while I was still in my pajamas and unkept hair, but it had been that way for a few months, the bigger and more tired I became. Sleeping was almost non-existant due to the size of my belly.

While pregnant with Ryan I was told I had high amounts of amniotic fluid. I was checked thoroughly  for any abnormalities in the baby and all the tests came back good. It was just one of those things nobody could explain. The levels weren't dangerously high, just on the high side. It did make my stomach look much larger and further along than I actually was which prompted anyone and everyone to ask if there were more than one baby in there.

April 9th, 2014. Steve came home at a decent time on that Wednesday. It was a warm day and we didn't want anything too difficult for dinner so we had a salad and went to lay down in bed early.  Steve fell asleep around 9 and I was up feeling weird movements in my belly and for once I wasn't posting them on Facebook because I thought Ryan was just faking me out again with his randomness. I was watching American Pickers and I felt these sharp pains in my cervix  and at 10 pm I felt a gush of water. I jumped out of bed faster than I have ever jumped in my life. I ran to the bathroom as quick as I could and I was gushing all over the floor. The bathroom floor was soon flooded and nothing I could do would stop the water from coming. I grabbed towels and yelled out for Steve. I covered the floor with towels and removed my clothes because their presence at this point was useless. I call out a few more times for Steve to no avail. I wrap myself up in makeshift undergarments out of bath towels and awkwardly walk to the bedroom and start yelling at Steve to wake up. He wasn't budging so I had to get onto the bed and start shoving him as I yell "my water broke" - He sprung out of bed very fast and said something along the lines of "Okay, lets do this."  He asked what he could do and I said get ready and call your parents.  While trying to get on dry clothes, I'm getting a hold of my kids (who were at their dads house), my parents and, of course, my friends and family on Facebook. :)

I lay down 3 towels to get into the van - praying I'm not forgetting anything at home. I call the hospital as we're driving to let them know I'm on my way. 20 long minutes, and a few wet contractions later we end up at the hospital. The only open doors are in the Emergency Room. I'm dropped off at the door while Steve parks the car. I'm dripping all over the ER floor with the full room all gawking at me.  Since there's a boy in there having a difficult time breathing, I'm not helped right away so I steal a wheel chair and then leak all over that so much that it drips off the chair onto the floor. I told them I was sorry, but was too anxious to really be embarrassed. An ER nurse takes me to the elevators and passes me off to a maternity ward nurse.  Once on the Labor and Delivery floor, I'm wheeled into my room and end up soaking the floor in that room as well and I actually slip and almost fall in it as I head to the bathroom to get my beautiful gown on.   They were NOT kidding when they said I had excess fluid in me. I could have filled a swimming pool.

I get into my luxurious bed, donned in my state of the art gown with snaps and ties that I can't ever figure out. A nurse checks me and tells me I'm 3-4 cm dilated. I was disappointed because I thought I'd be further along.  The contractions hurt but were still bearable. I was asked if I wanted an epidural but I wasn't sure at that point. I soon meet the on-call doctor (mine was on vacation for the week) and she found out that I had a previous C-section and knew I wanted a VBAC but she wasn't too thrilled on the idea. She couldn't tell me I couldn't have one but she tried to pressure me into surgery. I stuck my ground saying I only wanted it if it was medically necessary. She did say I had to have an internal monitor placed inside of me so I would be stuck to the bed regardless. I asked if the monitor was for me or for the baby and she said it was for me and my safety but after looking it up,  the only internal monitor I can find is the one that's screwed to the babys head while inside of me.  Once I realized that I would be bedridden the entire pregnancy, I opted for an epidural because I would have no other options to help me through the pain so may as well let the meds do it.

Getting the epidural itself wasn't too bad, the contractions I had to sit perfectly still through were not fun though.  My anesthesiologist was really good. He was patient with me and the nurse was so supportive through my tear filled contractions.  I was expecting to be completely numb but was very thankful that I wasn't. I could feel the contractions and I could move my legs but the sharp pains were gone.

Right after I get my epidural I wanted to lay on my side, but as soon as I do the babys hear-rate goes down to 60 and the nurse works quickly having me move to my back and then checks me and says the baby is posterior. After realizing he was sunny-side-up they work me quick into different positions to get him to turn. I turn side to side for a couple hours until I feel him transition into my pelvis. I tell the nurse and she checks me and tells me I'm 10 cm and ready to deliver. The room gets really busy with nurses and people to check the baby after he's born and the doctor.

With Steve by my side, his parents in the corner and lots of medical staff on hand, I begin to push. With my epidural, it wasn't 100% painless but I was okay with that. I liked that I was able to feel what was going on. It hurt to push but the pain was bearable. If memory serves me right, I think I pushed a total of 5 times before my baby boy was born. It went so fast. He arrived at exactly 5:00am on April 10th, 2014 just as Steves alarm went off on his phone. It was perfect timing for sure.  After he was born they placed him on my chest. I remember crying and I remember touching him and feeling his slick newborn body and falling instantly in love. I recall delivering the placenta and that was more painful that I would have liked it to be. I found out later that I had a 2nd degree tear which could have contributed to the painful delivery.

After I delivered and they examined the baby on me he peed all over my belly. They place a diaper on him and left the room. They leave me for 2 hours. I was finally in so much pain that I send Steve out to see what was going to happen. I just had baby Ryan laying on me for a couple hours and even though I cherished that time with him, I couldn't help but worry if he was okay. Steve came back with an apologetic nurse in tow. They checked the baby and saw that his back was bruised from when the Dr pulled him out, plus he had a nice sized stork bite on his forehead. I wasn't concerned since Tyler had the same one and it faded over time.

Ryan was finally weighed and he was 7 lbs 13.9 oz which they changed to 14 oz. He was 21 inches long. Tyler was also 21 inches long. I deliver good sized babies. I was very pleased.  Daddy got to hold Ryan first and then Grandma and Grandpa Hays. They had waited 40 years to become grandparents and I'm sure it was a sweet moment.

We stayed in the hospital for only a day. One day was long enough as Steve, Ryan and I could take as we were anxious to get home.  After a very brief blood sugar scare he passed all his tests and we were discharged around noon on April 11th, 2014 and headed home to start our lives with our newest family member.

Ryan was officially named Ryan Thomas Willam Hays
Ryan was chosen by Allison and Steve shortly after I found out I was pregnant
Thomas is Grandpa Hays name along with Steves middle name
William is both Grandpas middle name.

Sisters Sarah and Allison and brother Tyler are thrilled at the newest addition of the family.
Woke up in the middle of sleep to go to the hospital. I love this photo

exhausted and waiting for baby

waiting for baby

delivery

brand new baby boy

Pretty sure I'm delivering the placenta here. haha

Right after delivery

Soon after delivery

Sisters hanging out.

Holding his boy for the 1st time


7 lbs 13.9 oz

Getting his check up

Popeye Ryan

Grandpa Hays


Grandma Hays


Daddy and his boy

His first official inspeciton

crazy pediatrician who treated Ryan like a ragdoll.


Happy family

The new parents and Ryan

Auntie Melanie

My precious newborn

Papa Steve

Grandma Hays

Grandma Hays and Aunt Sandy

Exhausted Papa Steve


Grandpa Hays

Grandma Stoll

Proud Aunt Kim and Grandma Stoll

The proud Grandpas

Poppy and Ryan